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Nineteen selfies of the author with filters. One without.

Keeping Up Appearances

It’s pretty addictive to take filtered selfies, especially when there are now so many to choose from. There are now countless filters across Instagram, Snapchat and TikTok that can instantly erase blemishes, widen eyes, lengthen lashes, puff up lips, thin out noses, lift cheekbones and illuminate skin. Some filters are obviously just for fun and entertainment, others are so subtle that they’re clearly intended for stealth physical augmentation. Apps like FaceTune, BeautyPlus, YouCam and Perfect365 have hundreds of thousands of downloads each, evidence of our widespread obsession with these weapons of mass perfection. …


This is Jaleesa
This is Jaleesa

When we think of wellness, we often think of our physical health. But wellness expands beyond our bodies to encompass the mind, the spirit, and other facets of well-being. Wellness is a lifelong pursuit that is unique to each and every individual. Just as there is no person on earth that is perfect, there is no person on earth who has achieved perfect wellness. Instead, wellness is a journey. It’s an everyday, mindful approach towards overall health grounded in the desire for self-improvement. …


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Photo by Margot RICHARD on Unsplash

When my son was very young, he was quite contrarian. “Time to eat dinner.” Boy flings food on the floor. “Time to put your socks on.” Boy tosses socks across the room. “Time for a bath.” Boy streaks bare ass naked out the door. My child’s rebellious nature was funny at first…then it became aggravating…until it became predictable. Soon I developed a command-alt syntax knowing he’d do the opposite of what I asked. “Don’t eat that.” Boy stuffs food into face. “Leave your socks off.” Boy pulls socks on and crosses ankles to prevent removal. “No bath tonight”. …


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Photo by Christopher Campbell on Unsplash

As a young girl, I would get my hair pulled and brushed so hard that I cried. ‘You have to suffer to be beautiful,’ was the explanation. Really? To look presentable to others, the belief ingrained into my head as a girl was that I had to suffer.

And suffer I did.

I suffered with insecurity and self-loathing. I suffered through calorie-counting and bulimia. I suffered from anxiety and depression. Ever the perfectionist, I was my own worst enemy. Almost every day, as if it was important, I’d pray to God to make me beautiful. …

About

Jennifer Norman

Jennifer Norman is the Founder of The Human Beauty Movement and Humanist Beauty. She is also an award-winning author of SuperCaptainBraveMan children’s books.

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